“We can do this.”

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I can’t remember which pregnancy had me feeling completely overwhelmed. My husband and I have been blessed with five children, all now adults, and the ordinary discomforts of pregnancy are long forgotten. There was one day, though, when I wanted to throw in the towel on the whole motherhood thing.

We already had kids, and we very much wanted a bigger family, but suddenly I felt completely inadequate to the task. I couldn’t do anything right, I thought. I was too impatient to be a good mother, too afraid I’d screw up, not wise enough, afraid when I should be bold, bold when I should be cautious.

In short, a really bad day.

My husband could see how full of doubts I was. He looked me in the eye and said, “We can do this.”

Not “I’ve got this all figured out” or “don’t be so stupid” or “relax, you’re the perfect mother.” Instead, just four words, amounting to what’s known in the Book of Proverbs as a word in due season.

We can do this.

Did he ever feel overwhelmed or in too deep? No doubt. Still, when my husband said “we,” he meant it. I never had to be a parent alone, then or ever.

Happy Father’s Day to every man who’s had the courage to say “we can do this” to the mother of his child. May you be blessed this day and always.