Julia Holcomb visited New Hampshire a little over a year ago to speak at a fundraising banquet for a pro-life group. I was there, and I can still remember how the crowd hung onto her every word. As someone at my table that night said later, “You could hear a pin drop on the floor in the back of the room.”
“The doctor did not explain what the procedure would be like. Steven watched when the doctor punctured my uterus with a large needle. Then I was taken to a room to wait for the contractions. Steven sat beside me in the hospital until it was over. When the nurse would leave the room he was snorting cocaine on the table beside my bed….Steven, high on cocaine, was emotionally detached, witnessing the procedure but cut off from the normal reaction and feelings of horror you would expect. At the time I was shocked and hurt by his behavior.
“But I know now that on an unconscious level, he must have been traumatized witnessing the death of his first-born son in such a horrific and direct way. Steven watched the baby come out and he told me later, when we were in New Hampshire, that it had been born alive and allowed to die. (I was not allowed to see the baby when it was delivered.) Steven told me later that it had been a boy and that he now felt terrible guilt and a sense of dread over what he had done. I did not know that such a thing could be legal. I could not imagine a world where a tiny baby could be born alive and tossed aside as worthless without ever seeing his mother’s face.
“Nothing was ever the same between us after that day…”
That was a long time ago. The relationship with Tyler did not last. Better things were in store for Julia; she and her husband have been married for more than thirty years and are the parents of seven children. Julia now speaks on behalf of Silent No More Awareness campaign along with other post-abortive women who want to “break the silence” and speak “the truth about abortion’s negative consequences and the hope found in healing.”
“I pray that all those who have had abortions or have participated in any way in an abortion procedure may find in my story, not judgment or condemnation, but a renewed hope in God’s steadfast love, forgiveness and peace.”
New Hampshire state representative Susan DeLemus is a straightforward woman. She’s honest about having had an abortion, and she’s just as honest about the aftermath. A few months ago, she was asked to speak at a State House rally about her experience.
“I’m sorry we don’t don’t have people [here] in protest today of our movement. Those people are the people I want to reach the most. … I went ahead and had my baby killed. I know I’ve been forgiven, but it still hurts like hell. I hope you all take away from this that’s it’s still painful to me, and painful for any women who decides to kill her baby. And if Planned Parenthood was here today, I would look them right in the eye and say shame on you. Do you hear me, Planned Parenthood? I just want this message to get out.”
She sounded a similar note in a 2014 address. “I have a very personal connection with the right to life, because I had an abortion. I fight like mad every single bill that’s against life that comes through this House. There is no one in this House who can testify the way I can.”
This weekend, several people who are choosing to leave jobs in the abortion industry will be on a retreat sponsored by And Then There Were None. Those of us who support these women and men, and who want to support ATTWN but are short on financial resources, can do so this weekend by answering their calls for prayer. Here’s a Facebook post from Abby Johnson that explains the need.
“So often people will ask, “What can I do to help your ministry?” Well, I have something for you! This weekend, And Then There Were None – Prolife Outreach will hold one of our former clinic worker healing retreats and we want it to be covered in prayer during every hour we are there. If you would like to sign up for a prayer hour, please post your name in this document. But please ONLY write down your name if you are COMMITTED to pray during that time. Make sure to set an alarm on your phone or something to remind yourself!” https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/18jXKtQvhlltA6ixk1EcQnAT3sCGjBia4vMTa-ipmU4M/
The signup sheet for prayer times has a tab showing the prayer requests for individual workers.
For H who has received an incredible amount of backlash from friends and former co-workers…For J who has received death threats and was assaulted when she quit…For K who is a single parent struggling with bills and needs a job soon to support [her] family…
Other requests are in the same vein.
Stand by these workers. If your faith is in God, please participate in the prayer support by signing up on the ATTWN sheet referred to in the Facebook link here. If you are not a praying person, you can still hold in your thoughts these women and men as they come together this weekend.
The nation’s largest abortion provider recently emphasized its I-Stand-With-You-Know-What social media campaign with a #Solidarity hashtag. Standing with the ATTWN retreatants is genuine solidarity. No hashtag required.
Published two years ago today (and shared on this blog before): a wonderful post by Catherine Adair from The Harvest is Abundant, celebrating her family’s adoption of daughter Ava. Enjoy her story as Adoption Awareness Month comes to a close.
“I am the last person I ever thought would adopt a child. I didn’t even want children after my abortion over 20 years ago. I felt unworthy of being a mother. After working in an abortion clinic, where I participated in thousands of first and second trimester abortions, I was determined not to have children. But here I was, married with children, being asked to help a young mother and her baby, and I knew God wanted us to say ‘yes’ to this child.”
For many of us, the former clinic workers and post-abortive women, the recent videos of Planned Parenthood executives are a nightmare. Reliving the horror of our abortions, reliving the gruesome work of the clinic, we feel alone. Who can understand our pain? We can’t even comprehend it. The callousness of those profiting from our pain is sickening, almost too much to bear. It is compounded when the media refuses to investigate the truth of what we see on those videos. It is compounded when the supporters of Planned Parenthood call us liars.